Setting Limits with Toddlers

by Mary Ann Romans | More from this Blogger

27 Jun 2009 09:51 AM

Setting consistent limits and boundaries are not only good for the peace of your family, but they are also good for your toddler. Setting limits tells your toddler what behavior you expect from him, as well as the consequences of misbehavior.

When developing limits for your toddler, you first have to understand of what behavior your toddler is capable. Expecting a two-year-old to throw out his paper cup when his drink is done is perfectly reasonable. Expecting him to sit still for a piano recital is not. Different toddlers grow and develop at different rates, so keep that in mind when setting your rules.

Having a strong will is a good thing for a toddler. It shows that he is healthy and ready to take on the challenges of the world. He will need that will to try new things over and over again, even when he fails. Setting limits allows toddlers to fully explore their world without having to worry that something scary might happen. You'll need to be able to say no consistently and redirect your toddler as needed.

Show your toddler that you are invested in having him follow the limits that you set. Don't give in to a rule just once because your toddler will quickly learn that the rules don't always matter. And instead of halfheartedly saying no from across the room or while you are distracted by the phone or computer when your toddler misbehaves, approach him, get down on his level and reinforce the rule. Then offer a distraction or another alternative to the behavior.

When explaining the limits to your toddler, use short, simple sentences. Don't go into a lengthy explanation of why he shouldn't touch the oven door. Simply tell him that it is hot. Give only as much information as you need in order to get the point across.

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Mary Ann Romans is a freelance writer and mother of three children. She lives in Pennsylvania with her husband, the kids and a 16-pound cat.

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